– The “fixer” is wanting to do just about anything to simply help the “fixee”. The fixee becomes influenced by the fixer to solve their issues.
– The fixee does not place work into increasing by themselves, on their own. They could make changes that are temporary will return right right straight back. They feel insecure due to it. They feel more serious about by themselves and away from defensiveness may blame the fixer with regards to their continued battles.
– The fixer gets frustrated during the not enough progress simply because they worry. They could have the fixee is not as committed to their very own enhancement and discover that to be selfish. The fixer seems hurt and unappreciated being the only person putting in work to get blamed for attempting to assist. This all builds resentment which they sign up for in the fixee.
– This cycle of insecurity, resentment, attacking, and not enough modification continues. Either both events stay miserable or some body fundamentally makes.
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